Don’t Be a Bully, Be a Buddy | Corona, CA

bullyingNo one wants to be bullied, yet it seems like bullying is becoming more and more an issue in schools. Before you let you or your buddy become a victim, kit is important to know that there is something you can do. There are things you can do to keep yourself and the kids you know safe from bullying. No one should have to feel alone…

Stick with friends. There is safety in numbers. Avoid being alone in target areas like locker rooms, restrooms, and places where the bully hangs out.

Be assertive and confident. Use body language to show you are not afraid. Stand up straight and make eye contact.

Ignore the bully. Walk away. Don’t respond. Get out of the situation. Agree with the bully’s comments, then walk away.

Don’t seek revenge. Remember that using violence to solve problems only makes things worse.

Get help. If you are being bullied, don’t keep it a secret. Report all bullying incidents to friends or adults.

Don’t be a bystander. When no one speaks up, bullies learn they can get away with it.

Refuse to join in. Don’t take part in the bullying. Refuse to even watch.

Speak out. Distract the bully by changing the subject or using humor. Stand up for the victim. Tell them to stop.

Give support. Be a friend. Make an effort to include others who are normally left out or rejected.

Get an adult. Report any bullying you see to teachers or other adults. They can set clear, nonviolent consequences for future bullying behavior. Your friends can go with you to talk to a teacher, counselor, coach, or parent, in case you’re nervous to go alone.

If you would like to learn more about bullying prevention, contact Simple Acts of Care and Kindness at 866-459-7225 or visit for additional information.

Preventing Bullying in the First Place- Norco, CA

To Prevent Bullying . . .

Intervene when children are young. Children who bully are not born bullies and children who are victimized are not born victims. Many young children engage in aggressive behaviors that may lead to bullying, while others react by submitting to the bullying or even may fight back. Adults can stop these patterns before they are started by encouraging supportive behaviors such as sharing, helping, and problem-solving, and also by putting a stop to aggressive responses such as hostility, hurting, and rejection.

Teach bullying prevention strategies to all  and not just some children. Don’t assume that only “challenging” children become bullies or that only “weak” children become victims. Most children are likely to be victimized by a bully or some type of bullying at some point in their lives. And all children can benefit from learning the difference between acceptable and unacceptable behaviors. How they can stand up for themselves, and others; and when to turn to an adult for help is also very important to learn.

Take bullying seriously. Pay close attention to the warning signs. Make sure children know that bullying will not be tolerated and that you and other adults will assist them in make bullying stop.

Encourage empathy. Children who can empathize understand that bullying hurts not just mentally but also physically. They are less likely to bully and more likely to assist children who are bullied.

Teach by example. Be an effective role model. Children learn how to behave by watching and copying the adults in their lives. Consider how you solve problems, how you discipline, how you control your own anger and disappointment, and how you stand up for yourself and others without fighting. If children observe you acting aggressively, they are more likely to show aggression toward others.

Help children understand media violence. Children may learn aggressive behaviors by watching television and movies that make light of violence.  Playing violent video games that reward violent behavior should be avoided. Help children understand that how the media shows violence is often unrealistic and inappropriate. Intervene when you see children imitating media violence in their daily play or in their social interactions with other children.

Create opportunities for children to learn and practice the qualities and skills that can protect them from bullying.  Children who are confident are less likely to put up with bullying of themselves and others, and are more likely to have the courage and inner-strength to respond in a correct and helpful manner. Children who are assertive know how to react in a bullying situation in a successful, non-aggressive way, and they are less likely to be singled out by bullies in the first place. Children who know how to make and keep friends can look to them for protection from bullying. Children that know how to solve problems constructively can often diffuse a situation that can turn aggressive.

Encourage children to talk about what is happening and report bullying. When they do, listen carefully, and be very patient: Talking about bullying can be difficult, and children may feel embarrassed or scared to share their concerns.  A child that feels judged or feels that they are not being listened is less likely to seek help from an adult.

Develop strong connections with the children you are with.  Children are less likely to bully if they know it will disappoint an adult whom they respect and trust. Likewise, children are more likely to share with an adult a bullying situation if they feel that they have a caring and trusting relationship with that adult.

Take a look at your own beliefs about bulling. Your own misconceptions may prevent you from “seeing or understanding” a potential bullying incident and intervening as quickly as you should.

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Bullying…. What can Adults do?- Riverside, CA

Recommendations and Strategies for Adults

If you don’t get involved, bullies, victims, and bystanders will continue to buy into the power of bullying, rather than the power of prevention. They will continue to let bullying happen.

Why don’t adults step in more often? Sometimes, it’s because we don’t see it happen first hand; we’re not sure what to look for. But often, it’s because we don’t know what to do in the situation or we’re afraid that our involvement will somehow make matters worse.

How you can intervening effectively and recognizing that effective intervention begins long before you a bullying incident occurs, and continues long after you have talked to the children involved.

  • Prevention- offer solid suggestions for helping children differentiate between acceptable and harmful behaviors.  Help them to build the skills needed for effective bullying prevention.
  • Intervention- offer ideas for responding effectively when an incident occurs.  What they can to do and say to stop the bullying from continuing and ensure that the children involved are safe.
  • Follow-up- offer guidance on what to do after the bullying happens. This includes separate support for addressing the needs of the bully, victim, and bystander.
  • Talking with children- offer assistance on their level of understanding on how their words and actions can help in situations of bullying.

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Bystanders and Bullying- Corona, CA

Situations of Bullying more than often involve more than just the bully and their victim. They also involve bystanders—people who just watch bullying happen or hear about it.

A new strategy for bullying prevention spotlights the powerful role of the bystander. Depending on how bystanders respond, they can either add to the problem or be part of the solution. Bystanders very rarely play a entirely neutral role, even though they may think they do.

Hurtful Bystanders                          

Some bystanders . . . instigate the bullying by urging the bully to begin.

Other bystanders . . . encourage the bullying by laughing, cheering, or making comments that further stimulate the bully.

And other bystanders . . . join into the bullying once it has begun.

Most bystanders . . . submissively accept bullying by doing nothing and just watching the situation. Quite often without knowing it, these bystanders also add to the problem. Passive bystanders gives the bully the audience and attention bully craves and their silence in watching the situation happen allows bullies to continue their distructive behavior.


Helpful Bystanders     

Bystanders also have the power to play a major role in inhibiting or putting a stop to bullying. 

Some bystanders . . . get involved, by objecting to the bully, standing up for the victim, or changing the situation away from bullying.

Other bystanders . . .  get help, by gathering support from peers to stand up against bullying or immediately reporting the bullying to adults.


Understanding the Effects on The Bystander

Why don’t more bystanders get involved? 

  • They often think, “It’s none of my business.”
  • They worry about getting hurt or becoming another victim.
  • They feel there is nothing they can do to stop the bully.
  • They don’t like the victim or believe the victim “deserves” it.
  • They don’t want to attract attention to themselves.
  • They fear the bully will seek payback on them.
  • They think that telling adults won’t help or it may make things worse.
  • They don’t know what to do or how to do it.

Bystanders who don’t step in or don’t report the bullying often suffer negatively themselves. They may experience:

  • Demands to participate in the bullying also
  • Fear about speaking to anyone about the bullying
  • Powerlessness to stop bullying themselves
  • Feeling that they too may become victimized
  • Fear of being friends with the victim, the bully, or the bully’s pals
  • Blamed for not having stood up for the victim

Helping Children Become Helpful Bystanders
Adults can assist children in becoming helpful bystanders by talking with them about the different ways bystanders can make a difference, and by letting them know that adults will support them, if and when they let an adult know of the situation. Adults can also give examples of how helpful bystanders have shown courage and have made a difference in real-life situations and in their own experiences with bullying.

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