Understanding & Overcoming Bullying | SACK of Corona, Ca

ThinkstockPhotos-480003524Individuals bully for a number of reasons, understanding why they bully can help you overcome bullying or help others who may be being bullied move past it as well. The truth is bullies are basically lashing out as a form of concealing their own troubles or shortcomings.

Reasons why a bully is bullying:

-To look or appear powerful

-Because they themselves are being bullied

-To make themselves popular

-They are jealous of you

-To escape their own problems

Tip #1: Understand the truth about bullying

  • Walk away from the bully. Bullies want to know they have control over your emotions so don’t react with anger or retaliate with physical force. If you walk away, ignore them, or calmly and assertively tell them you’re not interested in what they have to say, you’re demonstrating that they don’t have control over you.
  • Protect yourself. If you can’t walk away and are being physically hurt, protect yourself so you can get away. Your safety is the first priority.
  • Report the bullying to a trusted adult. If you don’t report threats and assaults, a bully will often become more and more aggressive. In many cases adults can find ways to help with the problem without letting the bully know it was you who reported them.
  • Repeat as necessary. Like the bully, you may have to be relentless. Report each and every bullying incident until it stops. There is no reason for you to ever put up with bullying.

Tip #2: Reframe the problem of bullying

By changing your attitude towards bullying you can help regain a sense of control.

  • Try to view bullying from a different perspective. The bully is an unhappy, frustrated person who wants to have control over your feelings so that you feel as badly as they do. Don’t give them the satisfaction.
  • Look at the big picture. Bullying can be extremely painful, but try asking yourself how important it will seem to you in the long run. Will it matter in a year? Is it worth getting so upset over? If the answer is no, focus your time and energy elsewhere.
  • Focus on the positive. Reflect on all the things you appreciate in your life, including your own positive qualities and gifts. Make a list and refer to it whenever you feel down.
  • Find the humor. If you’re relaxed enough to recognize the absurdity of a bullying situation, and to comment on it with humor, you’ll likely no longer be an interesting target for a bully.
  • Don’t try to control the uncontrollable. Many things in life are beyond our control—including the behavior of other people. Rather than stressing, focus on the things you can control such as the way you choose to react to bullies.

Tip #3: Find support from those who don’t bully

Having trusted people you can turn to for encouragement and support will boost your resilience when being bullied. Reach out to connect with family and real friends (those who don’t participate in bullying) or explore ways of making new friends. There are plenty of people who will love and appreciate you for who you are.

  • Find others who share your same values and interests. You may be able to make friends at a youth group, book club, or religious organization. Learn a new sport, join a team, or take up a new hobby such as chess, art, or music.
  • Share your feelings. Talk to a parent, counselor, coach, religious leader, or trusted friend. Expressing what you’re going through can make a huge difference to the way you feel, even if it doesn’t change the situation.
  • Boost your confidence. Exercise is a great way to help you feel good about yourself, as well as reduce stress. Punch a mattress or take a kick boxing class to work off your anger.
  • Don’t beat yourself up. Don’t make a bullying incident worse by dwelling on it or replaying it over and over in your head. Instead, focus on positive experiences you’ve had(Source: help guide.org).

It’s important to keep in mind that it’s probably the bully thats actually suffering and not to dwell on it or think you’re less than. Recovering from bullying can take time, and everyone heals at his or her own pace. However, if you do find yourself dwelling on the incident(s), it’s important for you to seek help from a parent, school counselors, a teacher or a professional therapist.

How to Recharge on Your Winter Break! | SACK of Corona, Ca

Head And Shoulders Portrait Of Chinese GirlWhen winter break finally arrives, you have definitely earned some rest! However, the school year isn’t over – so relaxation and a plan of action to tackle the remainder of the school year are heat things to do during your winter break. Recharging while structuring the remainder of your school year is a great way to hit the ground running in 2016 and upon arrival back at school.

Here are 7 ways you can take some time to recharge over the holiday so you hit can hit the ground running in 2016:

1. Turn off your alarm clock: Is there anything better than switching off the alarm and sleeping in? Nope!

2. Binge-watch something!: It doesn’t matter which show you choose. The sheer joy of being able to do something unproductive for a few hours is what makes this a great relax-and-recharge tool.

3. Read: Grab that book that everyone’s been talking about, curl up and check out.

4. Get Outside: There’s nothing like fresh air to reinvigorate the senses. Talk a jog or a walk, regular exercise will keep you energized and your immune health up.

5. Take Naps: Take every opportunity to catch up on your rest during vacation.

6. Defining Goals: Take some time over the holiday break to write down on paper as many of your goals you hope to accomplish in the new upcoming year.

7. Create an Action Plan: Once you’ve defined your 2016 goals, set in to motion how you’re going to accomplish them.

Finding that balance is the key to a winter break that is not only restorative for you, but provides long-lasting benefits into the remainder of the school year and beyond!

What Can You Do If You See Someone Being Bullied? | SACK of Corona, Ca

BystanderWhen you help someone who’s being bullied, you may also help yourself. It can feel great to support someone in need and to stand up for what you believe! Many of us see someone being bullied at some point. It may be easier to just stand by, or even to laugh. But if you are brave and kind, you can be a real hero. Remember, the person being bullied may feel awful and all alone.

Bullying usually involves one or more people teasing, being violent towards, or harassing somebody on an ongoing basis. Bullying can happen in person and online and through cell phones.

What can you do if you see or know someone being bullied?

  • Stand up for the person. If it feels safe, defend the person being bullied. Bullies often care a lot about being popular and powerful. If you make the bullying seem uncool, the bully may stop.
  • Tell an adult. If you feel uncomfortable telling an adult, ask the adult to keep your comments private.
  • Encourage the bullied person to talk to an adult. Offer to go with them.
  • Offer support. Ask if the person is okay. Be friendly the next day. You can make a big difference just by showing you care.
  • Don’t join in or watch bullying. Bullies love an audience. Walk away, and see if you can get others to leave, too. Of course, don’t just abandon someone who is in real danger. Go get help.
  • Stop any rumors. If someone tells you gossip, don’t pass it on to others. You wouldn’t want someone spreading rumors about you(Source: girlshealth.gov).

If you see someone being bullied and you don’t do anything to help them then it will just continue and may get worse. People who are being bullied can feel really distressed and it can have a serious impact on their life and health. In very serious cases bullying could lead to self harming, or even suicidal thoughts. Often other people at school don’t realize the effect that bullying has when it goes on day in day out. If the bullying involves violence or threats, or if you think your classmate is in danger of getting hurt or harming herself, talk to an adult about it right away.

For more information call us at 866-459-7225 or visit our website at http://simpleacts.org

Bullying Prevention Tips | SACK of Corona, Ca

ThinkstockPhotos-480003524Are you being bullied? Do you see bullying at your school? There are things you can do to keep yourself and the kids you know safe from bullying.

If You Are Bullied:

Stick with friends. There is safety in numbers. Avoid being alone in target areas like locker rooms, restrooms, and places where the bully hangs out.

Be assertive and confident. Stand up for yourself. Use body language to show you are not afraid. Stand up straight and make eye contact.

Ignore the bully. Walk away. Don’t respond. Get out of the situation. Agree with the bully’s comments. Say “Whatever” or “You’re right.” Then walk away.

Don’t seek revenge. Remember that using violence to solve problems only makes things worse.

Get help. If you are being bullied, don’t keep it a secret. Ask friends or adults for help. Report all bullying incidents.

If Someone Else Is Bullied:

Don’t be a bystander. When no one speaks up, bullies learn they can get away with it.

Refuse to join in. Don’t take par in the bullying. Refuse to even watch.

Speak out. Distract the bully by changing the subject or using humor. Talk to the bully later, in private. Stand up for the victim. Tell the bully to stop. Get a group to do this with you.

Give support. Talk to the person being bullied in private. Be a friend to that person. Make an effort to include others who are normally left out or rejected.

Get an adult. Report any bullying you see to teachers or other adults. They can set clear, nonviolent consequences for future bullying behavior(Source: preventchildabuseny.org).

Think about what could help and share your ideas. There is a good chance that adults don’t know all of what happens. Your friends can go with you to talk to a teacher, counselor, coach, or parent and can add what they think.

For more information call us at 866-459-7225 or visit our website athttp://simpleacts.org

Reasons to Be Kind | SACK of Corona, Ca

 


We certainly live in an unkind world that seemingly focuses on the negative. Just turn on the nightly news, look at your Facebook feed, it’s everywhere. We wonder if there are so many terrible, depressing stories or because media and social media choose to focus on them. Maybe it’s both. Either way, we want to encourage you to focus on the good. Perspective is a choice. You can always choose to focus on the good that is around you.

Choose to be kind in an unkind world. There are many things, people, and circumstances that will try to bring you down. Tear you down. Shake you, break you. Don’t let them! Anyone who is trying to bring you down, is beneath you already. What you stand for, believe in and work hard at, you should be proud of. Do not let anyone take them from you.

Anyone trying to deter you from your path, from your journey, don’t allow them to veer you off course. Remain steadfast, keep your goals at your forefront. Lead with your own inner strength and kindness. You know your path that you’re on to reach your destination. Even if it’s the road less traveled, take it! You are the only one who can make your dreams a reality.

How about some reasons to be kind?

1.     Kind people are happier

Kindness makes people happier. This was shown in a study that asked volunteers to commit to five acts of kindness on one day of the week for 10 weeks. After the 10 weeks, they were around 25 percent happier than a control group. But you don’t necessarily need to change someone’s life to be kind. Small acts are meaningful for the person who receives them. Paying someone a compliment is good.  So is holding a door for someone or helping a neighbor to carry their shopping bags. The small things that bring a smile can be very powerful.

2.    Kind people are healthier and often live longer

For decades, research has suggested that people with positive emotions may live longer and healthier lives.  For example, there are several studies which suggest that positive acts of kindness and the emotion they produce – such as happiness and contentment – may help to lower blood pressure, reduce stress or improve sleep. There are also studies that demonstrate the physical effects of kindness on the heart. When we bond with people, which we naturally do when we show kindness, a hormone is released that dilates our blood vessels and counteracts the free radicals implicated in heart disease.

3.    Kindness is contagious

The most obvious benefit of kindness is that you make others feel good. And in making others feel good, you inspire them to want to do something kind for you or for someone else.  When you commit a kind act, those around you will take note and your kindness can have a ripple effect. Start that ripple now by being kind to those around you.

4.   Kindness doesn’t cost a cent

Kindness is something we can all engage in, anytime and anywhere. Kindness is a choice. It doesn’t need to cost money.  You may not fully realize it, but every single moment of your life, you have the choice to choose to act with kindness.

5.   Kindness makes a difference

The purpose of kindness is to make a difference in someone else’s day.  And kindness can indeed make a big difference.  In caring and nurturing school environments, for example, children and youth are more likely to excel.  By the same token, several studies show that kind and caring work environments have a positive impact on the productivity of employees(Source: kindottawa.ca).

At the end of the day, be kind to yourself. Be kind to others. Realize when someone is unkind to you, that’s about them. Not you. Choose to be kind in an unkind world.

For more information visit our website at: http://simpleacts.org/

Life after Bullying: Success Stories | Corona, CA

“Hardships often prepare ordinary people for an extraordinary destiny”

Adjusting to a life after bullying isn’t one that most individuals find the least bit simple. Although the hardships and difficulties of life after bullying may seem too straining at one point in time, it is important to hold onto that beacon of hope that things will get better. Things in life have a funny way of working themselves out, and like the quote above, those hardships are most of the time just preparing you for an extraordinary future to live. Don’t believe me? Here are some of the most well-known stars today that have overcome the strains of bullying.

  • Michael Phelps

18 time Olympic Gold Medalist endured years of bullying after being deemed the boy with the lisp and big ears. He remembers bullies flicking his ears and tossing his baseball cap out the window, all the while struggling with his ADHD and his absent father. Phelps threw himself into a world of sports and stands today as the most decorated Olympic medalist in the world.

  • Justin Timberlake

Growing up in Tennessee, Justin Timberlake found himself the center of bullying at his school. He didn’t fit in. Having acne, weird hair, and the inability to play football left him a standing target. His appreciation for music and the arts didn’t help his case either. After high school, Timberlake became 1/5 of one of the most famous boy bands of all time, NSYNC*; and then went on to take over the world of entertainment with his triple threat package: Singing, Acting, and Charismatic Attitude.

  • Rihanna

“I was bullied at school for being white.” Words said by Rihanna during an interview, her skin color determined the way she was going to be treated in Barbados, where she grew up. This brings up one of the most controversial buffers for bullying today: Racism. Growing up in Barbados, Rihanna endured years of torment because she wasn’t as dark as most of the kids at her school. This interview revealed a dirty secret about Barbados, as it turns out, their government was stringing on the racism in the country as well. All of that aside, Rihanna looked to music to inspire her through all of the hardship. Rihanna is now one of the most well-known musicians in the world. She is currently on of the best-selling music artists of all time and holds the title as the best-selling digital artist in the United States.

Ordinary people, who now lead extraordinary lives. There’s so much more life to be lived after bullying.

Contact Simple Acts of Care and Kindness today at 866-459-7225 or visit our website for more information.

Simple Acts of Care and Kindness proudly serves Norco, Riverside, Lake Elsinore, San Bernardino, Eastvale and surrounding areas.

World Kindness Youth Conference (W.K.Y.C.) Celebrates 9 Years! | Corona, CA

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Simple Acts of Care and Kindness kicked off its annual World Kindness Youth Conference again this year at Crossroads Christian Church.  This two-day event gets bigger and better each year and the singers, speakers and sensitivity camp exhibits were amazing!

A huge “Thank you” to all of our 4th graders and teachers who participated in the event as well as all of our volunteers who make this event happen.  We couldn’t do it without you.

The W.K.Y.C. was first held in 2004 and uses seminars and activities to help students learn the many areas of life into which care and kindness can be inserted. Seminars and discussion groups dealing with bullying and other relationship topics fill the morning. After lunch, students visit exhibitors who have come with messages about care and kindness for themselves (staying health with good food and physical activity), their family (anger management, safety, emergency procedures at home), their community (programs for the developmentally disabled, helping keep parks clean and green…), and their world (recycling, planting trees…).

Contact Simple Acts of Care and Kindness today at 866-459-7225 or visit our website for more information.

Simple Acts of Care and Kindness proudly serves Norco, Riverside, Lake Elsinore, San Bernardino, Eastvale and surrounding areas.