Are You a Bully? | Corona, CA

BystanderWhen we think about the typical bully, we think of the big, tough kid on the playground who pushes everyone around. Sure, but those aren’t the only types of bullies. The cheerleader, the class clown, even the quiet kid can be a bully. Bullies can be any size, age, gender or grade.

So, what does it mean to be a bully? When someone uses words or actions to hurt someone who has a hard time defending themselves. Sometimes kids who bully think that it’s cool, but what is cool about hurting someone? Name calling, tripping someone, laughing at them, leaving them out, ignoring them on purpose – how can hurting someone possibly be “no big deal?” If kids think about why they are bullying, they can then deal with those reasons and change their behavior. Not only will they feel better about themselves, but others will think so too.

Do you think you are a bully? Do you think you know someone who is? If you answer yes to any of these questions, you may want to rethink the way you treat others:

  • Do you hurt other kids on purpose?
  • Do you like to tease kids about how they look or act?
  • Are kids afraid of you?
  • Do you hit, threaten, or leave kids out?
  • Do you take or ruin other kids’ stuff?
  • Do you enjoy it when you upset other kids?
  • Do you blame others for your problems?
  • Do you say mean things about others, either in person or on social media?

If you would like to learn more about bullying and what you can do to prevent it, contact Simple Acts of Care and Kindness at 866-459-7225 or visit www.simpleacts.org for additional information.

Cyber Bullying: The Complete Resource Guide | Riverside, CA

Zack W VanWe recently come across this amazing e-guide to cyber-bullying. We all know bullying is becoming more and more common these days, and cyber-bullying is the worst. Not only because a cyber bully believes he/she is safe behind the screen, but because they cannot see how their words can affect their target.

But what is cyber-bullying exactly? What makes it different from typical playground teasing amongst children? But most importantly, what kinds of things can we do to prevent it from becoming progressively worse? All of this is covered for you in one e-guide. For more information, read more:

http://backgroundchecks.org/cyber-bullying-helping-the-bullied-stopping-the-bullies.html

Thank you, Jenny Holt, for such an eloquent way of explaining what has become such a hurtful way to bring someone down, instead of lifting them up.

If you would like to learn more about cyber-bullying and what you can do to prevent it, contact Simple Acts of Care and Kindness at 866-459-7225 or visit www.simpleacts.org for additional information.

National Bullying Prevention Month | Corona, CA


October marks National Bullying Prevention Month, this is a time that all of us to should together to combat, while also bringing awareness to bullying, harassment and cruelty. Of course one of the most important actions we can take is to be a part of the solution, and not the devastating problem that harms many children and even adults. There are many actions that you can take to keep yourself and your children safe from bullying.

If You’re Being Bullied:

  • Stick with friends, there is safety in numbers. Also, try to avoid being alone in targeted areas like locker rooms, restrooms, and places the bully tends to hang around.
  • You must be assertive, while also showing confidence when standing up for yourself. You can use body language to show the bully you aren’t afraid of them. One thing you can try is standing up straight and making eye contact. Shying away make bullies think you are more vulnerable.
  • Ignore the bully by walking away or by not responding to their insults at all. You can also try to get out of the situation by agreeing with the bullies comments. Say something along the lines of “Whatever” or “You’re Completely Right” then calmly walk away. Don’t let buddies get a rise out of you, that’s what they’re usually looking for.
  • Don’t seek revenge, by doing that, you would be making yourself a part of the problem rather than the solution. Also remember violence doesn’t solve any problem, it will only makes things worse.
  • Don’t be afraid to ask for help. If you’re being bullied, don’t keep it a secret. Ask your friends or an adult for help. Also report any bullies incidents to a teacher.

If Someone Is Being Bullied:

  • Don’t be a bystander while someone is being bullies, speak up for them. When no one speaks up, bullies tend to think they can get away with their terrible and harmful actions.
  • You must refuse to join in the act of bullying, and refuse to even watch someone being bullied. It’s not right to stand around while someone is being bullied, you never know what that someone may be going through.
  • Speak up for victims that are bullies are attacking.  You can try to tell the bully to stop harassing and being rude to the victim. It’s best to do this with a group of friends, as is mentioned before, there is safety in numbers.
  • Give support by talking to the person being bullied in private; extend your friendship and listening ear. Making an effort to include others that aren’t typically included can help someone greatly.
  • You should report any bullying you see to teachers or another adult. They can set clear, nonviolent consequences for the bully’s behavior, thus preventing the bullying from continuing.
  • You can think about way to help others being bullied and share those ideas with fellow classmates or teachers. There’s a good chance that not all adults know what’s going on our schools on a daily basis. Talk to a parent, teacher or counselor and see what they have to add to your ideas.

Our program’s here at West Coast Fundraising have focused on helping children understand what to do if they are being bullied or witness someone else being bullied. We must put a stop to this epidemic, starting with our elementary schools. For information regarding our programs here at Simple Acts of Care and Kindness, contact 866-459-7225 or visit our website at www.simpleacts.org. Let’s take a stand and put an end to bullying!

5 Reasons You Should Be Kind

It certainly seems that we live in an unkind world. I mean, just turn on the news or take a look at your social media feed. I often ponder if there are so many bad, depressing stories, why do media and social media choose to focus on them? Either way, you should still want to encourage yourself and other to focus on the positive aspects of life.

You can choose being kind and caring in an unkind world. There are many things, people and circumstances that can try to tear you down, shake you and break you. However, it’s your choice not to let them. You have the power to keep positive and move forward. Don’t allow others to prevent you from spreading kindness. There are many reasons for you to be kind, some of which include the following:

Being kind improves happiness. Not only does being kind make others happier, it can lead to inner happiness as well. There was a study that asked volunteers to preform five acts of kindness every day for 10 weeks. After the 10 weeks were up, they found that the volunteers were 25% happier than a control group. You don’t need to change someone’s entire life to be kind. Small acts of kindness are just as meaningful for the one receiving them. You can pay someone a compliment, hold a door open for someone or help a friend with a task.

Kind people are healthier and live longer. Research has long shown that people with positive emotions and attitudes may live longer and healthier lives. Several studies suggest that acts of kindness and the emotions they produce, such as happiness and contentment, may reduce stress, lower blood pressure and improve sleep. Research has also revealed that the hormone oxytocin, which is a hormone that is released when your bond, plays a powerful role throughout the entire cardiovascular system. Kindness and bonding go hand in hand.

Kindness is quite contagious. Of course, one of the most obvious benefits of being kind is that you’re making others feel good. By making other people feel good, you’ll inspire them to want to “pay it forward”. When you perform an act of kindness, people around you typically take notice and your kind actions create a ripple effect.

Kindness doesn’t cost money. Being kind is something we can all engage in, anytime and anywhere. Being kind is a choice you make and it doesn’t cost a cent. Unfortunately, not all people realize it, but every second of your life, you have the choice be kind to others.

Kindness makes a difference in the world. People are usually kind to one another in attempt to make someone’s day better, and I assure the act of kindness does indeed make a difference. For example, caring and nurturing environments in schools makes children and youth more likely to excel. The same applies to work environments.

Don’t let anything or anyone stop you from performing random acts of kindness. Kindness has a positive effect on all areas of our lives. At the end of the day, kindness always prevails.

If you would like to help spread kindness throughout your community, contact Simple Acts of Care and Kindness at 866-459-7225 today. Or visit www.simpleacts.org to learn more about Simple Acts of Care and Kindness.

 

4 Ways to Encourage Kindness in Kids

Nearly every single parent has probably said, “play nice, please” or “be kind to your bother”.  And I’m sure that most parents would agree that they want to raise kind and caring children. But is being kind something that can be taught?

Yes, however, most of the teaching is by example.

It’s our job to be great role models to better mold a kinder generation, as kindness isn’t taught, but rather learned. Verbally telling someone to be a kind and caring can only go so far, and with children words typically go in one ear and out the other.

The following list includes four ways to encourage kindness in kids:

  1. Walk the walk. Children understand the concept of kindness through daily interaction with their families. The way speak to others and your children even when tired are how they learn how to treat other people. So be sure to be the person you’d like you’d like your child to be.
  2. Talk the talk. Encourage your child with kind language. It’s been said that learning empathy and language go hand-in-hand. Kindness is essentially having the ability to take another person’s perspective and then altering your language and actions accordingly. When talking to children of a young age, make sure to speak positively and know how to word things in such a way that don’t demean another person.
  3. Reward big acts of kindness. It’s important to take notice of the “uncommon acts of kindness”, such as when your child builds a lemonade stand for a good cause or they go out of their way to help another person. However, you shouldn’t reward your children every day for everyday helpfulness, like taking out the trash or playing nice. That everyday kindness should be expected of them.
  4. Take them outside their comfort zone to teach empathy. If children haven’t learned compassion and generosity by the time they are 18, it’s very unlikely that they’ll learn kindness in a lecture hall. Young people should interact with people of all backgrounds, to learn how to “put the shoe on the other foot.” Take them out of their comfort zone to encourage personal growth for empathy.

Kindness should never be taken for granted. Teach your children how others should be treated. As the saying goes “treat others how you want to be treated”. If you would like to help spread kindness throughout your schools, contact Simple Acts of Care and Kindness (S.A.C.K.) at 866-459-7225 today. Or visit www.simpleacts.org to learn more about the S.A.C.K. foundation. 

Acts of Kindness to put to Use | SACK of Corona, Ca

What makes you feel good in your day? Maybe you’re having a bad day or have a lot on your mind. What could give you an instant lift in your frame of mind? Being kind, of course!

Acts of kindness makes us feel good, valuable and alive! When was the last time you went out of your way to be kind to someone. Didn’t it make your day too?

Many people extend kindness as part of their good nature, but what if we made a more conscious effort to be even kinder by practicing kindness regularly? We will be spreading good feelings and making a difference that has a lasting, ripple effect and undoubtedly changing the world.

Practicing random kindness while expecting nothing in return except the good feelings that these acts provide is life-giving.

Below are some ways to be kind:

-Hide notes of encouragement in your spouse’s or child’s lunch box or in a coat pocket, shoes or other place where he or she will receive this nice little surprise.

-Lend an elderly person a hand, if you see them struggle to reach something in the grocery store or while doing another activity.

-Buy a dozen donuts or bagels for a sports team at a local school, a firehouse or police station.

-Take a child or group of children that you know on a special trip somewhere such as a zoo, the circus, a museum, or the local playground.

-Praise someone at work for a job well done when the occasion arises. Best to do this in front of other coworkers or his or her boss.

-Help a family in financial need by cooking them a meal, bringing them groceries, giving them clothing, or even money. Do it in a way that makes them feel good about your gift.

-Shop for someone who is homebound or ill, especially in bad weather.

-The next time you have exceptional service at a restaurant make sure to tell the waitperson’s manager what a fine job they did, either in person or in writing.

-Give a presentation to a classroom of students on your occupation or an area of interest that you are passionate about.

-Say “thank you” and “please” as generously and often as possible.

-Stick up for a person who has been treated wrongly.

-Always keep your word. This is one of the kindest things you can do, especially when it comes to arriving on time to parties, appointments, and to meet friends or family. Being your word, acting in line with what you say, is a true expression of respect towards others.

Finally, a truly kind person will be authentic with their words and actions, realizing the negative or positive impact they can have in every encounter. Some are simple and some might take you out of your comfort zone. At the end of your life, what a better way to be remembered than that of a “kind” person?

For more information visit our website at: http://simpleacts.org/